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You struck a nerve here, Beth. I work away day after day. Sometimes I seem to be pushing -- often to complete something. Often I forget how many different kinds of partners are out there that I could connect with. Tonight I met with two Biznik friends who live near me (we're north enders) for our periodic accountability group. We laughed, listened, offered suggestions and information, and I went home feeling connected and refreshed. Thank you for the powerful reminder. Working solo it is easy to lose perspective.

Great post, Beth. Makes you think a minute about your own flywheel. Am I always pushing the right one? Great insights. Thanks.

Betty, you got it! My guess is that the more "right" the flywheel, the less we feel the stress of pushing.

@Merry C McNutt, CPA, MBA, I'm so glad you mention that seeming contradiction between pushing and allowing. My thought is that since the flywheel doesn't have any resistance other than its weight, the pushing isn't *against* something, but moving towards something. It creates the ease and flow we want. Determination and persistence done from a place of prosperity and love will be more like the push of childbirth - often painful, always joyful and worth it in the end!

@Judy Dunn, yes, the merry-go-round was a staple of every playground I knew growing up... I assume it's still there! It occurred to me that it is like a flywheel, in that you have to push for a while before you get enough momentum to jump on and ride. And what you say about the diff between inside and outside appearances is so true!

And yes, choosing the right people (see my previous post in this series, http://bethbuelow.com/2010/08/26/the-introvert-en... is critical, I think esp. for introverts. The right partner can help with energy, the wrong one can drag you down. Thanks for bringing that visual full circle! :-)

Great article, Beth. I needed that message. I'm pushing and pushing through a deadline (even though pushing goes against my philosophy of allowing life to unfold with ease). I'm tired and ready to have a breather show up. What I really needed was just a reminder that with determination and persistence, the wheel will start to carry me. That's a nice way to imagine my efforts.

Beth,

Love the analogies and metaphors you use. Such a visual there.

Man, I remember that playground ride. Didn't know it was called a "flywheel." It is very true when I think about it. To others, much of what we do from day to day in our businesses is invisible. We are pushing the flywheel. Alone. I have had family members marvel at the fact that "I can do anything at any time" because I own my own business. They don't see me up at midnight typing away, or working on new blog posts on a Sunday. So, yeah, that whole "overnight success" thing bugs me.

Word of caution: Partners can help get the flywheel moving faster. Just choose the right people to get on with you. Remember that kid who would get on and then drag his foot over the edge, against the ground, delighting in slowing us all down? : )

This is very reassuring and welcome to hear right now. And I can see how it's true. I'm noticing that the people who are successful with online businesses and/or have blogs with large readerships have one thing in common: they've worked at it consistently for months, if not years.

I've been plugging away at my blog for nearly a year now. I'm putting myself out there on Twitter. I'm commenting on other blogs. And I'm (gasp) leaving the house and meeting with real live people.

When I get tired, I quit temporarily. I take a break. Then I start again. And it's true: the more I exercise my "social muscles" the easier it gets. (Any yeah, teaming up with people, joining groups and projects...really accelerates the process.)

Patty, you are so right. What I also find is that the people who are consistent also give the impression they've been doing it for years - I've sometimes thought someone's been in biz way longer than s/he actually has been, partly because I see such consistency and presence.

I'm glad to hear that you take breaks :-) ... pushing when we're completely exhausted usually ends up defeating our efforts. The key, as you say, is starting again and getting stronger as we go!

Thanks for being part of the team that helps me push... I hope that I'm supporting you in the same way!

This is very reassuring and welcome to hear right now. And I can see how it's true. I'm noticing that the people who are successful with online businesses and/or have blogs with large readerships have one thing in common: they've worked at it consistently for months, if not years.

I've been plugging away at my blog for nearly a year now. I'm putting myself out there on Twitter. I'm commenting on other blogs. And I'm (gasp) leaving the house and meeting with real live people.

When I get tired, I quit temporarily. I take a break. Then I start again. And it's true: the more I exercise my "social muscles" the easier it gets. (Any yeah, teaming up with people, joining groups and projects...really accelerates the process.)

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